Jealousy & Compersion
In this short post I want to mention the topics of jealousy and possession in relationships, with compersion as it's contrary pole as a reminder to self. We all know the emotion jealousy, but not many know it's contrary compersion. Compersion is the emotion that is defined as: the vicarious joy associated with seeing one's partner have a joyful romantic or sexual relationship with another.
Fundamental Dynamics of Jealousy
In order to take a closer look at these emotions, we will zoom in on the four different elements of a relationship in which jealousy and compersion occur:
Owner (I), Object (II) & Tresspasser (III) & Public (IV)
Jealousy requires a trespasser in order to trigger the feeling of jealousy; the fear, rage or anger when something that appears to be our property of possession, in this case another human being, is intruded, entered or invaded by a third party. This all is observed by the public or collective (IV), also inducing shame and humiliation. In order to minimize becoming afraid, jealous, angry and/or vengeful it requires us to shift our perspective with the intention of us to become more selfless, tolerant and permissive, seeing the trespasser or third party as ourselves. This, in turn, gives us the ability to accept and love the situation instead of becoming jealous of it, with an overall level of joy, peace and grace instead of fear, jealousy and rage. How far we are willing to accept this kind of behavior is something we communicate through boundaries. A boundary is simply a real or imaginary point beyond which a person or thing cannot go. So if becoming untouchable by the others’ behavior is our goal, it requires the ability to fully become selfless, fully identifying with the absolute bliss of the others’ sexual union, as in truth people will cross boundaries, going literally everywhere.
Selfish & Possessiveness
Selfless & I am other.
In general we could state that:
possessive is protective, providing, self-controlling, dominating (wanted? needed?)
while
tolerant is unconditionally loving & permissive (wanted? needed?)
The Sexual Identity & Its Ascent
The sexual identity, and the way in which it tries to get relationships and sex, is under enormous pressure. Sex and relationships come to you by being you. Trust. By following your inner authority you will naturally land in situations in which you are pursued or in which you pursue, shy or bold, but if the mind of the open ego takes over the ropes of mental authority and gets fixated on having to prove itself! I’m the pursuer. In thinking in knowing what’s right for it. Well, then it’s game over because the real inner authority loses itself. There are many levels of sexual maturity, with the higher ones leading to higher levels of self-actualization, sovereignty, god-consciousness and bliss.
Red
The amount of sheer energy vibrating betwixt earth and the physical vehicle is astounding. Yet it cannot be acknowledged and used nearly so well by one who is working upon upper chakras unless that entity has the patience, the humility and the determination to come into contact with that earth; that soil of self. For the sexual identity is as powerful and as unique a part of the individual spirit or soul as any other incarnationally expressed energy. This is the energy which creates a healthy mind or a healthy body, the energy that gives a primal “yes” to being.
This is, moreover, as are all energies, a sacred energy; and the sexual intercourse is as the Eucharist of red ray, the Holy Communion of the body. This union recapitulates the oneness of earth and sky, the oneness of male and female and the oneness of reaching and waiting
Orange
The orange-ray attempt to have sexual intercourse creates a blockage if only one entity vibrates in this area, thus causing the entity vibrating sexually in this area to have a never-ending appetite for this activity. What these vibratory levels are seeking is green-ray activity.
There is the possibility of orange- or yellow-ray energy transfer; this being polarizing towards the negative: one being seen as object rather than other-self; the other seeing itself as plunderer or master of the situation.
Yellow
When we speak of true energy exchange, we must consider that the energy between two people has moved a very long way from that beginning red-ray attraction which eventually initiates sexual congress. It has gone from lust to a personal relationship and then often to a legal relationship or a committed relationship which is mated. And then the couple has the opportunity to ask for the Creator Itself to enter the sexual relationship through the open heart.
Green
If both vibrate in green ray there will be a mutually strengthening energy transfer, the negative or female, as you call it, drawing the energy from the roots of the being-ness through the energy centers, thus being physically revitalized; the positive, or male polarity, as it is deemed in your illusion, finding in its energy transfer an inspiration which satisfies and feeds the spirit portion of the body/mind/spirit complex, thus both being polarized and releasing the excess of that
which each has in abundance by nature of intelligent energy, that is, negative/intuitive, positive/physical energies as you may call them.
Blue
With the green-ray transfer of energy you now come to the great turning point sexually as well as in each other mode of experience. The green ray may then be turned outward, the entity then giving rather than receiving.
The first giving beyond green ray is the giving of acceptance or freedom, thus allowing the recipient of blue-ray energy transfer the opportunity for a feeling of being accepted, thus freeing that other-self to express itself to the giver of this ray.
It will be noted that once green ray energy transfer has been achieved by two mind/body/spirits in mating, the further rays are available without both entities having the necessity to progress equally. Thus a blue-ray vibrating entity or indigo-ray vibrating entity may share that energy with the green-ray other-self, thus acting as catalyst for the continued learn/teaching of the other-self. Until an other-self reaches green ray, such energy transfer through the rays is not possible.